What My Glasses Taught Me About Personal Style

As a personal stylist, being insulted for your style is a bit of a sucker punch.

A business coach once told me the reason my ads weren’t converting was because people didn’t resonate with my personal style.

After my last photo shoot, my husband told me my glasses made me look older. He also told me when I bought them…”You’re taking this aging thing well.” (I love him; we’ve got jokes).

One keyboard warrior told me she’d never take advice from someone with “that tattoo.”

And someone with less confidence would likely shrink at these remarks. 

But the truth is that at 45, I’m very content with my personal style. I’m not trying to attract 30-something millennials to my world. 

I’m definitely not obsessing over tattoo decisions I made in my twenties. Or really any decision I made back then.

And I need the glasses…. I have to stretch out my arm to see things without them. Also, I have barely any eyelashes left, so I’m trying to hide the no-makeup look because I burned myself trying falsies.

But I think that’s the point. Many women spend so much time trying to be someone they’re not (clothes & style included) that they’ve completely lost sight of who they naturally are. 

We chase trends and obsess over what to wear every morning by a deep desire to be liked. At the end of the day, we’re left wondering why who we are isn’t “enough.”

But I’m here to tell you that you are enough. 

Every day, you go about your life, interacting with your family, the people at your job, members of your church, or strangers at the post office. Each moment is an opportunity to impart something sticky to those people….

What you’re wearing is just one vehicle of who you are. And your clothes should absolutely reflect the inner person you have become. But it should be so effortlessly aligned that you don’t care whether other people like the shirt you’re wearing…because you LOVE it. 

Style is fun; clothing is a creative outlet. And you are always communicating something with what you choose to wear. But I believe you should express yourself authentically with joy and encourage others to do the same. 

No one is going to remember what you are wearing, but they are going to remember the kind of person you are. And a Radiant Life calls us to be a person who leaves a mark and makes the world a better place.